Truly knowing someone

I once believed love was a spark—those fleeting moments of wonder. The rush of a first date, the dance of discovering someone new. They felt like the pinnacle, the beating heart of the story. But now, I see those moments differently. They’re the invitation, the toll paid to enter the deeper connection terrain. They’re the prologue, not the essence. And yet, for many, they remain the brightest memories, overshadowing what comes after.  

True love, though, is not confined to beginnings. It blooms in the ordinary and unscripted spaces between the grand milestones. It’s found in quiet adventures, mundane rituals, shared sunrises and whispered goodnights. It’s the triumph of creating life together, growing through joy and pain, and stitching hearts together after being bruised. Love is not linear; it’s a kaleidoscope—breaking, opening, healing, and breaking again, only to heal stronger.  

There will be times when love feels fragile. When your partner frustrates you, hurts you, or even feels like a stranger. You will do the same to them. These aren’t signs of failure; they’re proof of humanity. Relationships are beautiful because they stretch us. They give us a mirror, showing us who we are in our rawest moments—when we feel rejected, unworthy, or defensive.  

Love invites us to learn. Understand what it means to fight with grace, forgive, and rebuild trust. It challenges us more deeply than any other experience on earth. It calls us to rise to greatness, to confront our shadows, and to choose each other even when it’s hard. Through love, we discover resilience—our ability to fall, stand again, and grow.  

Over a lifetime, love will transform us. We’ll fall for different people, but perhaps the most profound act of love is falling for the same person, again and again, through the changing seasons of life.  

Love isn’t static; it evolves. It teaches us to communicate our needs, to hold space for another’s pain, and to cherish joy when it appears. It isn’t just a feeling; it’s a practice. A lesson in patience, courage, and tenderness.  

And in the end, love isn’t about the beginning. It’s about who we become because of it. It’s about the stories we create, the wounds we mend, and the shared laughter that echoes long after the big moments have passed.

Katie Kamara 

[Art: C. Cenot]

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